How to listen to your heart

 

The ancient guidance to ‘listen to your heart’ has been around for thousands of years and still we find it challenging to do. This is partly because instead of being taught the value of your heart’s guidance early in life you are taught to follow the rules and to do what other people tell you to do. After a life time of doing this it can be incredibly hard to get in touch with your feelings and trust them but your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you.

 

Psalm 34:18 (Clouded Heart)

Your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you

 

Develop an awareness of what makes your heart expand with happiness

A first step to re-learning this natural ability is to develop an awareness of how certain people and situations in your life make you feel. Which ones make your heart expand with happiness and which make it contract and feel heavy? Most of you would acknowledge that feelings of happiness and heart expansion feel much better than a heavy heart but you will still find people and situations in your lives that make your heart contract and drain your energy.

This may be because you have a sense of obligation towards a person or situation or you fear their loss as you don’t know what will take their place in your life. Either way holding on to them can mean you are keeping yourself stuck in a place that no longer serves you and stops you moving onto the next stage of your life’s journey.

 

The guidance of others can limit you 

When you face a situation where you are not sure what action to take it is natural to ask for the guidance of friends. Whilst this can be useful it’s important to be aware this advice will be given from their own life experience, beliefs and personality. It can be interesting to see your cautious friend will advise caution. The friend who uses attack as a form of defence will make a suggestion based on this coping strategy and the friend who is challenged to speak the truth of their feelings will tell you not to speak your truth. You need to realise these are all coping strategies they developed to avoid pain and living from the heart means embracing pain as part of life rather than contracting in fear around it. Action taken from your heart’s true nature of love and trust will always bring more love into your life eventually.

 

Fear based action cuts us off from our hearts wisdom

Ultimately any action taken from fear whether yours or another persons cuts you off from your heart’s wise guidance that is your direct connection to universal intelligence, whilst any action taken from love opens you up more fully to this connection.  Listening to your heart to become aware of what makes it expand with happiness and joy so you can move towards the people and places that give you that feeling is an act of self- love.

Your heart is the only guaranteed constant in your life. It will be with you through the ups and downs, the good times and the not so good. It only wants the best for you and will always have an answer in any situation, though you might find it challenging to act on it.

Know that your heart is always trying to heal the inevitable hurt life brings you. It is always moving you towards forgiveness because beyond forgiveness lies complete freedom from the past and the opportunity to live from your true nature of love rather than fear.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

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The power of beliefs

When you hear the word belief what does it make you think of? Chances are it is religious beliefs. For millennia religious wars have raged because people are intolerant of others belief systems and want theirs to be the one true belief. Religion is still used today by many people as a way to dominate and control others.

We are all aware that people can be very protective of their beliefs as they form the foundation of their lives and any challenge to them can be seen as threatening.  But what many people do not realise is the power beliefs have to shape our lives in ways we are not consciously aware of.

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You are a powerful creator who has created your world from your beliefs

The truth is you are all living in your own worlds created by your beliefs. These beliefs are based on your past experience, your conditioning, other people’s perceptions you have absorbed as your own and the collective unconscious. The part of our unconscious mind that’s derived from ancestral memory and experience that you regularly access in your dreams.

Rupert Sheldrake talks about Morphic Fields as energetic information that surrounds all life forms and control their characteristic activities through repetition of thought and behaviour. When we understand that our thoughts and behaviour are controlled by our beliefs. We can see how our beliefs contribute to our own Morphic Fields and the more energy we give those beliefs through repetition of living from them the more power they have over our lives.

 

You are a powerful creator

You are in fact a powerful creator who has created your world from your beliefs about yourself. But the good news is in the same way you’ve managed to create a life from your self-limiting beliefs. You can choose to shift your unconscious choices to conscious ones and create a life from positive beliefs about yourself. Close your eyes and imagine what that might look like?

Matrix Reimprinting helps you find those core self-limiting beliefs often created in childhood during an emotionally challenging or traumatic moment. As a child you are the centre of your world and need to have an explanation of why particular events happen to you. Often the reasons you create involve blaming yourself in someway. You decide you are not good enough, not lovable, not worthy, bad, wrong the list goes on. What you don’t realise as a child is from the moment the belief has been formed you begin creating your life from it.

 

Your beliefs are thought forms you send into the Matrix

The reason these beliefs are so powerful is because they are programmed into your subconscious mind and you have no conscious awareness of them in your day-to-day lives. In the quantum understanding of the universe everything is part of the divine Matrix, a field of energy transformation and manifestation that permeates and connects all life forms. Your beliefs are thought forms you send out into the matrix that you attract back as life experiences. In other words if you have a belief you are not good enough on a subconscious level you are constantly looking for validation of the truth of your belief so you can be ‘right’.

From a survival perspective this is a way of keeping you safe because you are still influenced by your ancestors fear of change as for them change was a real threat to their survival. The problem is when you act from your limiting belief it locks you into a cycle of limitation and restriction because every time you experience your belief being ‘true’ you reinforce it in your own Morphic field and the Matrix.

The only way to change those subconscious beliefs is by finding the memories where they originated. Releasing the emotional energy that is holding them in place in the Matrix and creating new positive beliefs.

 

Collapse the ‘table top’ of memories based on a self-limiting belief

It may seem a daunting prospect to go back to all those painful memories to clear them one by one. But with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting we use the table top metaphor to show that once you remove the table legs of the most emotionally intense memories. The whole table top of similar memories based on a particular belief collapses.

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Creating positive beliefs opens up new pathways in life

Once you connect with the power of the energetic universe within yourself. You are able to work with this energy in a proactive way, releasing pain and sadness and making space for new positive beliefs and the emotions they create. From this place you will find new pathways and directions begin to reveal themselves and as you open and expand your inner world you will find your outer world begins to do the same.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

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The important life lessons our shadow self can teach us

The shadow self in Jungian psychology is a part of us in the unconscious mind that our conscious ego does not recognise or want to acknowledge exists.  Just as when the sun shines we all cast a shadow we all have a shadow self within us. Especially people who spend a huge amount of energy trying to convince themselves and others they have not. I know this because I was one of those people.

 

Happiness is not something to achieve

In our materialistic society obsessed with celebrity culture and the shiny surface appearance of a ‘perfect’ life there isn’t much room for shadow. As we strive for success on a never-ending conveyer belt of gaining more and more stuff we have no time to listen to the parts of us crying for our attention in the shadows.  I spent many years on the corporate treadmill trying to find fulfilment. Working hard to achieve happiness because I had been taught that ‘productivity’ and ‘deliverables’ were the way to do that.

But what I learnt was you can’t ‘achieve’ happiness, it is not another thing to gain through hard work. Happiness is a state of mind, a still place within your heart you can choose to connect with at any time. It can be found in the scent of a flower, listening to beautiful bird song, the smile of a friend and many other small but significant moments of life. You may be surprised to hear it was my shadow that eventually taught me this truth.  But this was after everything had happened and I realised I wouldn’t have learnt this without going through the experiences I did.

 

When the perfectionist takes control

I did not recognise the voice I would hear all the time was that of the perfectionist part in me. If you can just deliver this project on time, gain that promotion or get that bonus you will be happy and you will be successful.

This part likes to get things ‘right’ whilst being very concerned about what others think of her. She was in the drivers seat and not about to let anyone else try and give directions because her ego was to big for that and she could do it all herself! She didn’t have time for the shadow.

Of course my heart had been trying to talk to me for years through feelings but the perfectionist part wasn’t interested in feelings. She was on a mission and nothing was going to get in her way. She was going to achieve goals and attain success at any cost. (She had been very well conditioned you see).

So on and on I went pushing myself harder and harder ignoring what my heart was telling me and sinking deeper into depression. I would like to say one day I woke up and finally decided to listen to the kind guidance and wisdom of my heart but that’s not the way it happened.

The shadow as saviour

In the end my shadow stepped in and I had a breakdown. Although it didn’t feel like it at the time it was saving me from myself. I want to make the important point here that I’m not saying the corporation caused my breakdown. It was ignoring my heart that did it. I do have a lot to say about the way many corporations are currently operating, how they treat people and the need for them to evolve to support a life sustaining society but that’s for another time.

Some people enjoy the left brained corporate culture and the ‘safety’ of the structured life it provides but as a creative person and a deep thinker I had to finally accept I was not one of them.  In the end the true values in my heart where stronger than my mental conditioning and I could not continue putting my energy into something I didn’t believe in.  I finally met my shadow when I had fallen into it and there was nowhere to hide any more. In that shadow place I discovered parts of me that were holding onto a lot of unprocessed emotions from the various challenging life experiences I’d had. It was their feelings of unhappiness, anxiety and fear I had been running away from for so long. There was also that core creative part of me that was desperate to escape what she saw as a prison in that structured left brained environment.

 

Embrace your shadow. The source of self-knowledge, wisdom and healing

Embrace your shadow. The source of self-knowledge, wisdom and healing

 

Shadow as a source of wisdom and healing

As my heart opened to the truth of my feelings there was lots of pain and many tears but when those had been shed the grey fog of depression lifted and the world began to look brighter than it had for a long time. I had a new understanding and respect for my shadow that had protected me from all these difficult emotions for such a long time. I learnt that rather than turning away from it and denying its existence I needed to embrace my shadow with love and compassion and in doing so I opened a door to greater self-knowledge, wisdom and healing.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

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How Matrix Reimprinting can help you change your beliefs to change your life

It can be a challenge to describe what Matrix Reimprinting is and how it works. Talking about quantum physics and energy can leave some people cold or confused so one of the best ways I find is to share people’s experiences during their sessions (with permission of course).

Over the weekend I was fortunate enough to work with Robert at the mind, body, spirit fair in Hove. Robert explained his issue was that he was feeling anxiety because he worked in a stressful environment and would often find himself feeling overwhelmed with all he had to do. He also felt the need to take on his colleagues work as well to ‘make sure it got done in time’. As is common in a highly stressful corporate environment his anxiety was increased because he felt if he didn’t finish everything in time his performance would be judged.

 

Tapping on anxiety

We began with classic EFT tapping on Robert’s anxiety in his stomach. Even though anxiety is what we call a global issue by tapping on it we were able to unlock some more specific feelings around his situation at work. Whilst tapping on global issues can bring some relief for EFT to be really effective we need to tap on specific emotional, sensory or physical details usually encapsulated in a memory.

 

The colour of emotions

Sometimes in an EFT session we will use colour to help connect with the emotion that’s come up. Colour is energy and helps us connect directly to the subconscious. Often in a session when our client says the colour is changing it is a sign they are releasing emotion and this is what happened with Robert.  As the session progressed the anxiety in his stomach shifted and became a pain in his lower back. This is also common occurrence in an EFT session as we begin shifting energy it can move around the body.

 

The emotional cause of lower back pain

The pain in Robert’s lower back was a clue for me that at some point in his life he had not felt supported and when I mentioned this to him it made Robert think about feeling responsible. At this point he made a leap across time when a childhood memory surfaced. In this memory he was 9 years old, his mum and dad had just split up and he was feeling the weight of responsibility of looking after his mum.

 

Uncovering a core belief

Once we had identified where he had first felt this feeling of responsibility earlier in his life. I was able to help Robert step into the memory and tap on his younger self to enable him to let go of the emotions connected to feeling responsible and to uncover the core belief that he had to look after his mum which led to him feeling he had to look after everyone at work.

 

Sunshine

Matrix Reimprinting helps you create a picture that reflects new positive beliefs about yourself

 

Creating a new positive picture

Robert could now see how this belief formed when he was 9 years old, was still controlling his behaviour at work and probably in other situations ever since. He was then able to help the younger self change that belief to one that supported a more healthy approach to his work so he would no longer feel anxiety because he could choose not to take on his colleague’s responsibility to get their work done on time.

We then invited Robert’s younger self to create a new positive picture to replace the old memory and reinforce this new realisation. At the end of the session he felt a weight had been lifted and his anxiety had gone.

The real power of Matrix Reimprinting is in its ability to help you uncover the limiting beliefs that you have been unconsciously creating your life from often since childhood. Once you identify the limiting beliefs that have been controlling your behaviour you are free to create new beliefs that expand your possibilities and opportunities in life. By healing the past you really can transform your future.

© Amy Branton.

Amy Branton is an Advanced EFT & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner. She runs Free Heart EFT, a heart centred therapy practice dedicated to helping people bring positive change into their lives by improving their emotional, physical, spiritual health and well being.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

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In the chrysalis of change

Butterfly emerging from chrysalis

We must find our own way out of the chrysalis of change

 

Chrysalis of change

Like all life forms the caterpillar is born with an inbuilt evolutionary urge. At some point it will know it’s time to go somewhere safe and quiet to make it’s chrysalis whilst it transforms into a completely new life form.

It is not by accident it begins life crawling around. It cannot travel very far or very fast and it relies on its outer skin for defence in the form of camouflage or poisonous fur to protect it whilst it fulfils its basic needs. This is the first stage of its life, learning the basics.

We begin life in a similar way except our camouflage is the social identity we are conditioned to create so we can fit in with everyone else and survive. It has been this way for a very long time. Each generation passing down behaviour based on the survival mind and though in the past this would have often have meant to difference between life and death in recent times it has become a self-destructive behaviour on a global scale.

The fear-mind’s solution to the problem of survival has become a problem itself and has led us to a point where our environmentally destructive habits threaten the survival of all life on the planet. It is time for our evolutionary impulse to evolve from the survival mind to the conscious mind.

Rather than looking at insects and seeing something smaller and inferior to us. Could it be that we have much to learn from other life forms evolutionary journeys? After all many of them have been around much longer than humans. Perhaps the metamorphosis of the caterpillar into a butterfly represents this necessary evolution from humans mindlessly focusing on survival to heart-centred spiritual consciousness?

 

Entering the chrysalis

Like the caterpillar we have to enter our chrysalis period alone, we must also struggle to leave our chrysalis alone too. There are some things we can only do for ourselves and working out who we really are and what we’re here to do as spiritual beings is one of them. Time in your chrysalis is imperative for you to reflect on your life so far and understand the lessons learnt from it. It’s also a time to work out what you will do with the second half of your life when you transform from the caterpillar into the butterfly of spiritual consciousness.

How will you use these new abilities and skills that have evolved from your earlier life? How you will live in a heart-centred and conscious way? What will your life look like when you do?

 

Spiritual Metamorphosis

The caterpillar teaches us there are no short cuts to being a butterfly. It’s true the butterfly’s wings enable it to have a completely different perspective of the world and travel further and faster than the caterpillar ever could but it can only do this because it lived as a caterpillar first.

In the same way we need the lessons of our caterpillar stage of life to be the foundation for our own spiritual metamorphosis. This can only happen when we take the time in our chrysalis to understand and accept those life lessons. The spiritual wisdom of the butterfly can only grow from the hard work of the caterpillar.

© Amy Branton.

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A free heart is a happy heart

The healing path is the way back to your heart.

In life you will find many pathways to choose from. You may try different routes and travel far but only the healing path helps you find your way back to your heart…

This healing journey can be challenging as we navigate the emotionally painful experiences we will inevitably face in our lives. It doesn’t help that in our society showing emotion is considered to be a sign of weakness so we are taught to suppress and deny emotions rather than express and release them.

But often these challenging and painful experiences lead to us closing our heart to protect us as we fear being hurt again. Whilst it’s an understandable strategy to avoid further pain, emotions are energy and for us to stay healthy they need to flow otherwise suppressed emotions will eventually manifest as physical symptoms and disease in the body. It also disconnects us from our hearts guidance and wisdom. It is our heart that is our creative centre and it needs to be open for us to tap into our connection with the creative intelligence of the cosmos.

Free your heart with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting 

This is why freeing your heart from the emotional pain of the past is so important. Emotional Freedom Technique and Matrix Reimprinting, a recent evolution of EFT are two revolutionary therapies from the emerging field of energy psychology that can help set you free from the pain of the past and open your heart to the joys of life again. They combine talking therapy with the eastern meridian energy system and are often referred to as ‘emotional acupuncture’ or ‘tapping’.

By focusing on your emotional issue whilst tapping on a sequence of meridian points on the head, upper body and hands you connect simultaneously with mental, emotional, sensory and higher dimensional information and energy within the subconscious mind to find the memories that are the root cause, clear the stuck energy that you’ve been carrying around often for many years and create new positive images in your subconscious mind. These positive images not only make us feel better emotionally but in studies undertaken by the Institute of Heart Math Research Center it has been proven that positive emotions also boost our immune system and so improve our physical health.

Co-creating with the universe

When you release the energetic blocks that have been holding you back and open your heart you are able to use this freed energy as a positive power source to begin co-creating with the universe, growing in new directions and creating what you desire in your life.

A free heart is a happy heart…

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice based in Sussex dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT

Developing fear consciousness with Matrix Reimprinting

Fear protects us

It’s important to remember that fear is a natural and necessary part of our survival response that protects us from dangerous situations in life. However it can become a problem when it stops us doing the things we want to do life and keeps us stuck in our comfort zone. Often our fears lies in our past experiences where we where hurt unexpectedly but there are other types of fear we need to be aware of.

Origin of fear

Knowing the origin of our fears is the first step towards working with them consciously. Are we feeling fear based on our own past experience in a particular lifetime or is our fear part of our conditioning from the collective ‘fear-mind’? We live in a society where this fear-mind is all pervading with the behaviour of mainstream media, politicians and corporations reinforcing it on a daily basis.

There is a huge fear of lack in our society and often we find others projecting their own fears onto us. If we are not mindful of this we can find many of our thoughts and decisions in life are based on this fear. Fear closes us down and limits our options as our fearful thoughts create deeply ingrained neural pathways that are reinforced through repetition. This is part of the challenge in these times of shifting consciousness, awakening from fear-based living so we can begin living from the heart. It is our heart that is our creative centre and it needs to be open for us to tap into our connection with the creative intelligence of the cosmos.

The Scream

Edvard Munch The Scream

Developing fear consciousness with Matrix Reimprinting

Matrix Reimprinting can help us develop our fear consciousness by leading us to the origin of our fears. This empowering knowledge allows us to be more aware of what triggers our fear. Being able to identify whether our fear comes from our own life experience or perhaps a pre-conscious fear we may have absorbed from our mother in the womb or even the primal fear all humans feel can help us target it more effectively with EFT. Clearing our fear based energy blocks means we free our energy so we can use it in a more open, creative loving way that enhances our lives and attracts people towards us.

© Amy Branton.

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice based in Sussex dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT

Healing is believing

I tried many therapies on my healing journey and the reason I chose to train in EFT and Matrix Reimprinting is because they are about empowering people. I think the most important gift that can be given is a belief in the power to heal yourself because we all have an innate ability but are not taught how to use this. Especially in western society where too often we give our power away to medical professionals who are focused solely on physical symptoms that only tell part of the story.

We are also disempowered by western media and it’s steady, unrelenting stream of fear pumped out through the main media channels because the physiological and psychological responses to fear keep us thinking small and easy to manipulate. We have lived this way for a long time relying on the big systems of governments and corporations to ‘look after us’ feed us, clothe us, cure us and in doing so gave a way our power. More people are waking up to the high price we have paid for the comfort and convenience provided by industrial society in the form of increased alcoholism, depression, cancer, obesity, smoking related diseases, environmental and body pollution from chemical drugs and toiletries, preservatives and pesticides to name a few.

That’s just the way it is

Many of us conditioned since birth to believe this is the only way to live, that’s ‘just the way it is’. But we have created this ‘reality’ ourselves and we can create a new reality through changing the way we think and behave. We have the power to change the content and direction of our lives with our thoughts. EFT and Matrix re-imprinting are healing processes for our times, helping us heal from the fear, anxiety and stress that has been both created and driven by the dominant belief system of consumption we have all been conditioned to follow.

Our real needs

It is time for us to admit there are other ‘basic needs’ beyond food and shelter that have not been met by consumer society, needs that have been ignored, denied and even ridiculed. The need to feel free, to explore, to be creative, the need to feel self love and acceptance, the need to share our deeper feelings about life including the often denied feelings of fear, loneliness and anxiety, the need to share our truth whatever it may be and be heard, the need to have time and space to be ourselves not being on a relentless never ending tread mill of production at the expense of our own energy and the resources and energy of the earth, the need for hugs, love, affection and friendship, the need to learn and grow, the need for support, the need to be healthy, the need to look after our well  being, the need to feel connected to the earth, the need to feel an important part of this ongoing planetary evolution, the need to feel like we matter, the need to feel gratitude for our lives, the need to feel compassion for others, to care for all life forms that are part of the web of life, the need to understand we are a thread in the web not the masters of it. These needs are universal to all humans.

Outer change starts within

Inner change is the first step to creating a different world, our inner and outer worlds are completely connected and affected by each other. We have the power to make new rules, create a different belief system one that honours and values life, that sees the beauty in the natural world, the ingenuity which we humans can never hope to surpass, the intelligence in nature that we have turned away from in our desire to control our world and make nature our slave and in doing so we have enslaved ourselves.  We need to feel the love that it has for us, we are the children of the earth not the masters and everything we have is what our parent earth has given us. For too long we have been taking with no thought for the harm we’ve been doing, showing no gratitude and offering nothing in return.

Heal the earth through healing yourself

We have been taught to participate in the consumer belief system that is based on ruining the ecosystems of the planet on which all life is dependant. Many books have been written, many activists have exhausted themselves but still the majority continue on this path. We have lost our ability to visualise another way of living, we think it’s about going backwards or ‘giving up’ our material comforts. But if we can see it as an opportunity to begin living from our true nature as multifaceted and connected energetic beings with mental, emotional and spiritual bodies in addition to the physical one we are conditioned to focus on. We can begin to envision a new way of living in harmony with each other and the planet. As each individual commits to healing him or herself they are simultaneously helping to heal the rest of humanity and our relationship with the earth.

© Amy Branton.

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice based in Sussex dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT