How to listen to your heart

 

The ancient guidance to ‘listen to your heart’ has been around for thousands of years and still we find it challenging to do. This is partly because instead of being taught the value of your heart’s guidance early in life you are taught to follow the rules and to do what other people tell you to do. After a life time of doing this it can be incredibly hard to get in touch with your feelings and trust them but your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you.

 

Psalm 34:18 (Clouded Heart)

Your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you

 

Develop an awareness of what makes your heart expand with happiness

A first step to re-learning this natural ability is to develop an awareness of how certain people and situations in your life make you feel. Which ones make your heart expand with happiness and which make it contract and feel heavy? Most of you would acknowledge that feelings of happiness and heart expansion feel much better than a heavy heart but you will still find people and situations in your lives that make your heart contract and drain your energy.

This may be because you have a sense of obligation towards a person or situation or you fear their loss as you don’t know what will take their place in your life. Either way holding on to them can mean you are keeping yourself stuck in a place that no longer serves you and stops you moving onto the next stage of your life’s journey.

 

The guidance of others can limit you 

When you face a situation where you are not sure what action to take it is natural to ask for the guidance of friends. Whilst this can be useful it’s important to be aware this advice will be given from their own life experience, beliefs and personality. It can be interesting to see your cautious friend will advise caution. The friend who uses attack as a form of defence will make a suggestion based on this coping strategy and the friend who is challenged to speak the truth of their feelings will tell you not to speak your truth. You need to realise these are all coping strategies they developed to avoid pain and living from the heart means embracing pain as part of life rather than contracting in fear around it. Action taken from your heart’s true nature of love and trust will always bring more love into your life eventually.

 

Fear based action cuts us off from our hearts wisdom

Ultimately any action taken from fear whether yours or another persons cuts you off from your heart’s wise guidance that is your direct connection to universal intelligence, whilst any action taken from love opens you up more fully to this connection.  Listening to your heart to become aware of what makes it expand with happiness and joy so you can move towards the people and places that give you that feeling is an act of self- love.

Your heart is the only guaranteed constant in your life. It will be with you through the ups and downs, the good times and the not so good. It only wants the best for you and will always have an answer in any situation, though you might find it challenging to act on it.

Know that your heart is always trying to heal the inevitable hurt life brings you. It is always moving you towards forgiveness because beyond forgiveness lies complete freedom from the past and the opportunity to live from your true nature of love rather than fear.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

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Unlocking the treasures of the heart

EFT Brighton and Hove

 

How often do you take the time to sit quietly and really listen to your heart? With the busy lives many of us lead the chances are not very often. Our industrial society treats human beings as parts in a giant machine and there has been no place for the heart and it’s wisdom.

Instead we are taught that to be happy we must be successful and to be successful we need to work harder and harder to gain more material wealth.  I’m not saying all material wealth is bad. I like my material comforts as much as the next person but I have personally found the idea that a life of comfort and convenience is the road to happiness has not been true for me.

I found our busy noisy world was the road to stress and a breakdown. I know I am not alone. The reason everyone is so stressed is because they are following the conditioning of working harder and harder to achieve happiness through material gain and finding it’s not working. If it was working they would feel happy not stressed.

 

The origin of stress is fear

What many people fail to realise because they are too busy being stressed on the treadmill of industrial life is that stress originates from the emotion of fear. In evolutionary terms the industrial revolution happened in the blink of an eye and for many thousands of years before life evolved more slowly and the human body, mind and spirit had time to adapt.

The body is a highly adaptive survival organism that was designed with the three responses to a threat of death. Fight, flight and freeze. This programming is very strong because it had to be as back then it really could mean the difference between life and death.

 

Is stress really the way to happiness? 

In the concrete cities we now inhabit we no longer have the same type of threats to our survival but the body is still programmed to respond in this way to perceived threats. Instead of the fear of being eaten by a predator we have the fear of of being fired from our job. Instead of the fear of starvation we fear we don’t have the perfect body to be attractive and loved. The stress we experience is based on these fears of not working hard enough to be successful at our jobs, bodies, social lives and relationships. We put enormous pressure on ourselves because we were taught from childhood that this is how we’ll achieve happiness.  But can being in a fearful and stressed state really be the way to happiness?

 

Stress disconnects us from source

In a state of stress our heart rhythms become erratic. Our frontal cortex shuts down and we are unable to think clearly and solve problems. In this state we are also cut off from our connection to source through our heart and are unable to access it’s divine wisdom. As many people are in a state of fight or flight almost 24 7 they are not able to connect with their heart’s guidance and so their actions are controlled by fear and stress not love.

 

EFT helps us unlock the treasures of the heart 

If the stress we feel is not acknowledged and released eventually the body will try and speak to you through physical symptoms and disease. EFT can help us understand the emotions behind the stress and where they originate from. Through tapping we can begin to open our hearts once again to connect with the truth of our emotions and release them. Once you recognise that all feelings, even the painful ones have a role to play in guiding you on your soul path it becomes easier to accept them as important wisdom from your heart.

When you unlock the pain held in your heart and release it you are free to rediscover all the other treasures contained within it that are difficult to access in an emotionally blocked state. Feelings of love, joy, compassion and gratitude for life. A true heart centred connection to other people and to life itself. In opening our hearts and releasing pain we find ourselves coming home to the eternal love of our soul.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT

 

Tapping into the power of dreams with EFT

EFT for dreams

Tapping into the power of dreams with EFT

Dreams are a doorway into the unconscious mind we access when we are asleep. Although we may not always remember them we are dreaming every night with the majority of people having between 3 to 5 dreams a night. Dreams act as a kind of pressure gauge allowing us to process feelings and emotions we may not be consciously aware of in our waking life. As such they can be used for healing as our unconscious mind is helping us process unresolved emotions as it works towards making us whole again.

Feelings are the fabric of dreams

Dreams are an undervalued resource but the language of dreams is very powerful and worth investing time in learning. Taken literally dreams can seem confusing and strange and there are many dream interpretation books available that explain the psychological meaning of elements in your dream. Whilst they are useful they only give definitions for individual dream elements. The most important aspect though is the feelings experienced by the dreamer during the dream as they are the fabric that connect all the different elements and hold the key to interpreting the dream correctly. But there is another way we can effectively work with dreams- we can tap on them.

Dream Tapping

When we have a particularly vivid dream or a recurring dream we can use tapping to help us understand what the dream is really about and what our unconscious mind is trying to communicate to us. Jungian dream analysis is based on the idea that all elements in the dream are parts of our psyche.  By re-entering a dream and tapping on dream symbols your conscious mind can enter into a dialogue with the unconscious parts of you who may have been previously ignored or denied. Using dream tapping you create a connection between these two brain wave states whilst you are awake. By doing this you are learning to communicate with the vast database of knowledge that is the unified energy field. This is the knowledge of your higher self or soul self.

 

Dream Tapping

Using EFT to tap into the knowledge of your higher self

 

Dreams connect us to source

When we dream we return to source energy and the brain is using symbols from the collective unconscious to represent your thoughts and feelings. This is why you can find yourself dreaming about a place, a person or an experience you have not had in your current lifetime. This is a way everyone can understand and experience the interconnectedness of everything. Your dreams will follow where your daily consciousness is focusing so the state of your dreams is a good way to measure whether your subconcious thoughts are predominantly positive or negative. This is important because it’s our subconscious thoughts that are impacting energetically on our lives and can either be supporting or blocking our progress on our desired life path.

Working with emotional metaphors

We don’t have to wait until we are asleep to access these dream symbols we can also use tapping to connect us to the higher dimensional energies that dreams also originate from. When we work metaphorically with emotional energy we are using the language of dreams to transform it. We can also use tapping to tune into positive dreams where we feel joy, happiness, love and peace to begin working with this soul energy in a deeper way. Bringing it from the dream world into our waking reality. This is the energy used in Matrix Reimprinting sessions to create the new picture we send out from our heart.

Dreams are a doorway to our inner power

In this time of rapid transition and change it has never been more important to transform and release fear-based emotions from our dreams and be sending positive emotions and images out from our hearts into the world. Many of us have been sleepwalking through life disconnected from our inner power to transform our lives and our world. Dreams are a doorway to that inner power and connection to source energy. It is time for us to start using this power wisely.

© Amy Branton.

 

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT