How to listen to your heart

 

The ancient guidance to ‘listen to your heart’ has been around for thousands of years and still we find it challenging to do. This is partly because instead of being taught the value of your heart’s guidance early in life you are taught to follow the rules and to do what other people tell you to do. After a life time of doing this it can be incredibly hard to get in touch with your feelings and trust them but your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you.

 

Psalm 34:18 (Clouded Heart)

Your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you

 

Develop an awareness of what makes your heart expand with happiness

A first step to re-learning this natural ability is to develop an awareness of how certain people and situations in your life make you feel. Which ones make your heart expand with happiness and which make it contract and feel heavy? Most of you would acknowledge that feelings of happiness and heart expansion feel much better than a heavy heart but you will still find people and situations in your lives that make your heart contract and drain your energy.

This may be because you have a sense of obligation towards a person or situation or you fear their loss as you don’t know what will take their place in your life. Either way holding on to them can mean you are keeping yourself stuck in a place that no longer serves you and stops you moving onto the next stage of your life’s journey.

 

The guidance of others can limit you 

When you face a situation where you are not sure what action to take it is natural to ask for the guidance of friends. Whilst this can be useful it’s important to be aware this advice will be given from their own life experience, beliefs and personality. It can be interesting to see your cautious friend will advise caution. The friend who uses attack as a form of defence will make a suggestion based on this coping strategy and the friend who is challenged to speak the truth of their feelings will tell you not to speak your truth. You need to realise these are all coping strategies they developed to avoid pain and living from the heart means embracing pain as part of life rather than contracting in fear around it. Action taken from your heart’s true nature of love and trust will always bring more love into your life eventually.

 

Fear based action cuts us off from our hearts wisdom

Ultimately any action taken from fear whether yours or another persons cuts you off from your heart’s wise guidance that is your direct connection to universal intelligence, whilst any action taken from love opens you up more fully to this connection.  Listening to your heart to become aware of what makes it expand with happiness and joy so you can move towards the people and places that give you that feeling is an act of self- love.

Your heart is the only guaranteed constant in your life. It will be with you through the ups and downs, the good times and the not so good. It only wants the best for you and will always have an answer in any situation, though you might find it challenging to act on it.

Know that your heart is always trying to heal the inevitable hurt life brings you. It is always moving you towards forgiveness because beyond forgiveness lies complete freedom from the past and the opportunity to live from your true nature of love rather than fear.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

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Using EFT to learn the language of emotions

If someone asked you what’s the main way people communicate with each other the chances are you’d say talking. There is a lot of emphasis on learning the spoken word and of course it’s a very important aspect of human communication. However it may surprise you to know talking is only responsible for 7% of our communication, especially when you consider how much talking we all do.  In fact 55% of communication is visual (body language and eye contact) and 38% is vocal (tone of voice, pitch, speed and volume)

 

People talking

Talking is only responsible for 7% of communication

 

Communicating with our emotions

There is another language much less recognised but equally important and that is the language of emotions. As children we are much more connected to our emotional state unable to hide what we are feeling in the moment. In our society however, emotions are often seen as a weakness and as our conditioning takes over we are taught that being ‘too emotional’ is not a desirable way of behaving and so we learn to censor ourselves to fit in and be ‘normal’.

This conditioning means we can become very disconnected from our true feelings and when we face a challenge in our lives that is emotionally upsetting we are taught to suppress those feelings rather than express and release them. Although a certain amount of emotional censorship is necessary for society to function effectively. Unfortunately for many people suppressing their emotions over a period of time can lead to mental or physical illness and disease.

 

Emotions are recorded at a cellular level

Ignoring emotions does not mean they go away. Instead they go into the body ‘recorded’ at a cellular level and stay there until such time as they are released. But as we are not taught how to effectively do this the average person is carrying around layers of emotions from all of their traumatic experiences from childhood or even previous life times.

 

Our emotional environment affects our genes

The importance of the mind-body connection is being increasingly accepted and new sciences such as Epigenetics are able to show that both the emotional ‘environment’ of our inner world and our physical environment can have either a positive or negative impact on the health of our genes. For this reason it’s important to be aware of what emotional environment you are creating on a daily basis.

Is it one filled with positive thoughts that bring a feeling of joy and love into your heart or is it one filled with thoughts that have a negative impact on your health and wellbeing? Chances are it’s the latter and everyday you are creating an internal environment filled with thoughts and emotions that are keeping you from an optimum state of health and wellbeing whilst at the same time blocking your authentic self, in fact you may not even know who this self is.  This is where energy psychology therapies such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Matrix Reimprinting, a recent and very powerful evolution of EFT can be very helpful.

 

Onion Heart

Peeling away the layers of emotions

 

Peeling the onion

EFT and Matrix Reimprinting are powerful therapies that enable you to learn the language of your emotions.  As you tap on an issue and connect with what physical sensation it creates in your body you go on a unique journey that involves peeling away the layers of emotions that are causing this block in your meridian energy system, a network of pathways and energy points that run through your body.

We call this the onion effect and what EFT is really good at is helping you identify your emotions as part of the process of peeling away those layers that are blocking you from connecting with your original being of peace and love. Once the layers have been removed Matrix Reimprinting can be used to help you re-connect with your authentic self by healing the younger parts of you that have been holding these emotions for many years.

 

Shine the light of your authentic self

Taking the time to learn the language of emotions using EFT can literally change your life. Instead of remaining stuck in a place, job, relationship that is no longer working for you or perhaps never was. You can clear the layers of emotion and self-limiting beliefs caused by them that are keeping you stuck.

The wonderful thing is once they have been cleared you are free to shine the bright light of your authentic self into the world and begin to consciously create your life in a way that works for you.

It is only when you begin living from this state of being that you will see your outer world transform as it begins to reflect your light back to you.

© Amy Branton.

 

 

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT

Tapping into the power of dreams with EFT

EFT for dreams

Tapping into the power of dreams with EFT

Dreams are a doorway into the unconscious mind we access when we are asleep. Although we may not always remember them we are dreaming every night with the majority of people having between 3 to 5 dreams a night. Dreams act as a kind of pressure gauge allowing us to process feelings and emotions we may not be consciously aware of in our waking life. As such they can be used for healing as our unconscious mind is helping us process unresolved emotions as it works towards making us whole again.

Feelings are the fabric of dreams

Dreams are an undervalued resource but the language of dreams is very powerful and worth investing time in learning. Taken literally dreams can seem confusing and strange and there are many dream interpretation books available that explain the psychological meaning of elements in your dream. Whilst they are useful they only give definitions for individual dream elements. The most important aspect though is the feelings experienced by the dreamer during the dream as they are the fabric that connect all the different elements and hold the key to interpreting the dream correctly. But there is another way we can effectively work with dreams- we can tap on them.

Dream Tapping

When we have a particularly vivid dream or a recurring dream we can use tapping to help us understand what the dream is really about and what our unconscious mind is trying to communicate to us. Jungian dream analysis is based on the idea that all elements in the dream are parts of our psyche.  By re-entering a dream and tapping on dream symbols your conscious mind can enter into a dialogue with the unconscious parts of you who may have been previously ignored or denied. Using dream tapping you create a connection between these two brain wave states whilst you are awake. By doing this you are learning to communicate with the vast database of knowledge that is the unified energy field. This is the knowledge of your higher self or soul self.

 

Dream Tapping

Using EFT to tap into the knowledge of your higher self

 

Dreams connect us to source

When we dream we return to source energy and the brain is using symbols from the collective unconscious to represent your thoughts and feelings. This is why you can find yourself dreaming about a place, a person or an experience you have not had in your current lifetime. This is a way everyone can understand and experience the interconnectedness of everything. Your dreams will follow where your daily consciousness is focusing so the state of your dreams is a good way to measure whether your subconcious thoughts are predominantly positive or negative. This is important because it’s our subconscious thoughts that are impacting energetically on our lives and can either be supporting or blocking our progress on our desired life path.

Working with emotional metaphors

We don’t have to wait until we are asleep to access these dream symbols we can also use tapping to connect us to the higher dimensional energies that dreams also originate from. When we work metaphorically with emotional energy we are using the language of dreams to transform it. We can also use tapping to tune into positive dreams where we feel joy, happiness, love and peace to begin working with this soul energy in a deeper way. Bringing it from the dream world into our waking reality. This is the energy used in Matrix Reimprinting sessions to create the new picture we send out from our heart.

Dreams are a doorway to our inner power

In this time of rapid transition and change it has never been more important to transform and release fear-based emotions from our dreams and be sending positive emotions and images out from our hearts into the world. Many of us have been sleepwalking through life disconnected from our inner power to transform our lives and our world. Dreams are a doorway to that inner power and connection to source energy. It is time for us to start using this power wisely.

© Amy Branton.

 

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT