5 ways to improve your emotional health

The importance of emotional health

The Institute of Heart Math Research Center has spent the last 20 years focusing on the heart- brain connection and discovering the benefits to our physical health of being in a positive emotional state. When we are in what’s known as the coherent heart state measured as 0.1 frequency using an EEG monitor. Our mind, body, spirit and emotions are working harmoniously together. In this optimum state we are better able to communicate, solve problems, be creative and even have better physical co-ordination. This is a good place for us to be living our lives from but trying to be in a state of heart coherence in our fast paced technological society can prove challenging to say the least. Whilst there is a big focus on physical exercise and appearance there is little recognition of the need to look after our emotional health and the detrimental effect it can have on our well being if we don’t. This coupled with the British cultural conditioning of keeping ‘a stiff upper lip’ means as a nation we are very good at repressing our emotions rather than expressing and releasing them.

There is growing evidence from the new science of Epigenetics that this strategy for coping with emotions is the root cause of many physical symptoms and disease we experience. Bruce Lipton, a stem-cell biologist discovered it’s the emotional environment we create in our mind that impacts the health of our cells not our genes. This discovery means we can no longer ignore our feelings and emotions. Finding ways to ensure we spend time in the coherent heart state is not just something we should ‘fit in’ our busy lives but a state we should aim to be in constantly. We need to recognise that slowing down and feeling gratitude and appreciation for life will bring many benefits to mind, body and spirit that our modern society does not make time for.

Here I outline 5 healthy habits you can develop to improve your emotional health

Create some daily quiet time

Find a time every day that you can turn everything off and spend some time in a quiet place. Switch off the TV, Computer, Phone and whatever other gadgets you feel like you can’t live without and spend at least 15 minutes just listening to what comes up for you. There maybe emotions and feelings you find uncomfortable and you may have the urge to grab your phone or computer to distract yourself. The reality is those emotions and feelings are trying to get your attention for a good reason. This is an opportunity to tune into your heart and listen to what it’s telling you and the first step towards creating a deeper connection with yourself and your inner world.

Griffith Park Meditation

Find some daily quiet time to listen within

 

Develop an awareness of when you are stressed 

Modern society and our use of technology has brought us many advantages but an unwelcome consequence has been our levels of stress have increased. The commute on the tube, the bullying boss, the relationship that’s not going quite according to plan and the cigarettes and wine you tell yourself are relaxing you at the end of the day are all contributing factors to your stress. For some people stress becomes a way of life but this is when it get’s dangerous. Your body was never designed to be in a constant state of stress and if you don’t take time to become aware of when you are stressed sooner or later you will experience burn out, illness and in some cases serious disease.

Take the time to notice when you begin to feel stressed, how you feel in your body, the thoughts that are running through your head and how this effects the way you interact with others. Once you’ve noticed when you are feeling stressed you can learn healthier ways to reduce it than drinking another cup of coffee or smoking a cigarette. Believe me these are adding to your stress, not reducing it!

 

Learn EFT

Emotional Freedom Technique is fast becoming the safe and easy way to release stressful feelings in the body and mind. Whilst focusing on the stressful feelings in your body that may manifest as a tight chest, knot in your stomach or other physical sensation caused by stress. You tap on a sequence of meridian points to rebalance your energy and bring you back into the parasympathetic calm state when you have been triggered into a stressed or fight/flight state . EFT is also known as ‘emotional acupuncture’ and the basic tapping points can be found here http://www.freehearteft.co.uk/howtotap.html. Learning to tap rather than reach for a cigarette or a glass of wine that just have the effect of suppressing your feelings is a much healthier way for you to deal with stress and will help you return to a coherent heart state associated with optimum health.

 

Be kind to yourself

Our money focused society conditions us to believe that being successful means having more money, more stuff, more sex and more power. This means we are all working really hard to achieve these goals that if we really stopped and thought about it. We might realise are not bringing us the happiness we were promised but instead are making us feel like we never have enough and feeling stressed because we are chasing an impossible dream which wasn’t ours in the first place. Participating in this competitive culture can mean we are very hard on ourselves as each of our achievements is barely acknowledged in our race to achieve the next goal, pay rise or rung up the ladder. Being kind to yourself means working out what’s right for you rather than blindly following someone else’s ideas about what makes a successful life and what brings happiness. The reality is happiness is very personal and only you know what truly makes you happy. The greatest kindness you can give yourself is taking the time to work out what happiness means to you. There is no better way to improve your emotional health than taking whatever action you need to make sure your life has the right mix of ingredients that make you happy.

 

Find a community of like-minds

Once you’ve identified what makes you happy and experienced the benefits of improving your emotional health. You can further support yourself by finding a community of like-minded people who have similar ways of bringing happiness into their lives. It may be by listening to your heart you have identified some situations or habits in your current life that are not supporting your emotional health and that you need to let go of that which is no longer serving you. Being in a community of like-minds can help you ensure you find the support you need whilst you develop new habits that improve your emotional and physical health as you embark on this new path.

The more you experience the benefits to body, mind and spirit of improving your emotional health the easier it is to continue on this new path and begin to share the benefits with others. Never underestimate the impact you can have on others as they see the positive effect the changes you have made bring to you and the potential for themselves.

© Amy Branton.

Find a like-minded community

Finding a community of like-minds can help improve your emotional health

 

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT

 

Using EFT to learn the language of emotions

If someone asked you what’s the main way people communicate with each other the chances are you’d say talking. There is a lot of emphasis on learning the spoken word and of course it’s a very important aspect of human communication. However it may surprise you to know talking is only responsible for 7% of our communication, especially when you consider how much talking we all do.  In fact 55% of communication is visual (body language and eye contact) and 38% is vocal (tone of voice, pitch, speed and volume)

 

People talking

Talking is only responsible for 7% of communication

 

Communicating with our emotions

There is another language much less recognised but equally important and that is the language of emotions. As children we are much more connected to our emotional state unable to hide what we are feeling in the moment. In our society however, emotions are often seen as a weakness and as our conditioning takes over we are taught that being ‘too emotional’ is not a desirable way of behaving and so we learn to censor ourselves to fit in and be ‘normal’.

This conditioning means we can become very disconnected from our true feelings and when we face a challenge in our lives that is emotionally upsetting we are taught to suppress those feelings rather than express and release them. Although a certain amount of emotional censorship is necessary for society to function effectively. Unfortunately for many people suppressing their emotions over a period of time can lead to mental or physical illness and disease.

 

Emotions are recorded at a cellular level

Ignoring emotions does not mean they go away. Instead they go into the body ‘recorded’ at a cellular level and stay there until such time as they are released. But as we are not taught how to effectively do this the average person is carrying around layers of emotions from all of their traumatic experiences from childhood or even previous life times.

 

Our emotional environment affects our genes

The importance of the mind-body connection is being increasingly accepted and new sciences such as Epigenetics are able to show that both the emotional ‘environment’ of our inner world and our physical environment can have either a positive or negative impact on the health of our genes. For this reason it’s important to be aware of what emotional environment you are creating on a daily basis.

Is it one filled with positive thoughts that bring a feeling of joy and love into your heart or is it one filled with thoughts that have a negative impact on your health and wellbeing? Chances are it’s the latter and everyday you are creating an internal environment filled with thoughts and emotions that are keeping you from an optimum state of health and wellbeing whilst at the same time blocking your authentic self, in fact you may not even know who this self is.  This is where energy psychology therapies such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Matrix Reimprinting, a recent and very powerful evolution of EFT can be very helpful.

 

Onion Heart

Peeling away the layers of emotions

 

Peeling the onion

EFT and Matrix Reimprinting are powerful therapies that enable you to learn the language of your emotions.  As you tap on an issue and connect with what physical sensation it creates in your body you go on a unique journey that involves peeling away the layers of emotions that are causing this block in your meridian energy system, a network of pathways and energy points that run through your body.

We call this the onion effect and what EFT is really good at is helping you identify your emotions as part of the process of peeling away those layers that are blocking you from connecting with your original being of peace and love. Once the layers have been removed Matrix Reimprinting can be used to help you re-connect with your authentic self by healing the younger parts of you that have been holding these emotions for many years.

 

Shine the light of your authentic self

Taking the time to learn the language of emotions using EFT can literally change your life. Instead of remaining stuck in a place, job, relationship that is no longer working for you or perhaps never was. You can clear the layers of emotion and self-limiting beliefs caused by them that are keeping you stuck.

The wonderful thing is once they have been cleared you are free to shine the bright light of your authentic self into the world and begin to consciously create your life in a way that works for you.

It is only when you begin living from this state of being that you will see your outer world transform as it begins to reflect your light back to you.

© Amy Branton.

 

 

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

http://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartEFT