How to listen to your heart

 

The ancient guidance to ‘listen to your heart’ has been around for thousands of years and still we find it challenging to do. This is partly because instead of being taught the value of your heart’s guidance early in life you are taught to follow the rules and to do what other people tell you to do. After a life time of doing this it can be incredibly hard to get in touch with your feelings and trust them but your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you.

 

Psalm 34:18 (Clouded Heart)

Your feelings are your heart’s way of speaking to you

 

Develop an awareness of what makes your heart expand with happiness

A first step to re-learning this natural ability is to develop an awareness of how certain people and situations in your life make you feel. Which ones make your heart expand with happiness and which make it contract and feel heavy? Most of you would acknowledge that feelings of happiness and heart expansion feel much better than a heavy heart but you will still find people and situations in your lives that make your heart contract and drain your energy.

This may be because you have a sense of obligation towards a person or situation or you fear their loss as you don’t know what will take their place in your life. Either way holding on to them can mean you are keeping yourself stuck in a place that no longer serves you and stops you moving onto the next stage of your life’s journey.

 

The guidance of others can limit you 

When you face a situation where you are not sure what action to take it is natural to ask for the guidance of friends. Whilst this can be useful it’s important to be aware this advice will be given from their own life experience, beliefs and personality. It can be interesting to see your cautious friend will advise caution. The friend who uses attack as a form of defence will make a suggestion based on this coping strategy and the friend who is challenged to speak the truth of their feelings will tell you not to speak your truth. You need to realise these are all coping strategies they developed to avoid pain and living from the heart means embracing pain as part of life rather than contracting in fear around it. Action taken from your heart’s true nature of love and trust will always bring more love into your life eventually.

 

Fear based action cuts us off from our hearts wisdom

Ultimately any action taken from fear whether yours or another persons cuts you off from your heart’s wise guidance that is your direct connection to universal intelligence, whilst any action taken from love opens you up more fully to this connection.  Listening to your heart to become aware of what makes it expand with happiness and joy so you can move towards the people and places that give you that feeling is an act of self- love.

Your heart is the only guaranteed constant in your life. It will be with you through the ups and downs, the good times and the not so good. It only wants the best for you and will always have an answer in any situation, though you might find it challenging to act on it.

Know that your heart is always trying to heal the inevitable hurt life brings you. It is always moving you towards forgiveness because beyond forgiveness lies complete freedom from the past and the opportunity to live from your true nature of love rather than fear.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

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The power of beliefs

When you hear the word belief what does it make you think of? Chances are it is religious beliefs. For millennia religious wars have raged because people are intolerant of others belief systems and want theirs to be the one true belief. Religion is still used today by many people as a way to dominate and control others.

We are all aware that people can be very protective of their beliefs as they form the foundation of their lives and any challenge to them can be seen as threatening.  But what many people do not realise is the power beliefs have to shape our lives in ways we are not consciously aware of.

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You are a powerful creator who has created your world from your beliefs

The truth is you are all living in your own worlds created by your beliefs. These beliefs are based on your past experience, your conditioning, other people’s perceptions you have absorbed as your own and the collective unconscious. The part of our unconscious mind that’s derived from ancestral memory and experience that you regularly access in your dreams.

Rupert Sheldrake talks about Morphic Fields as energetic information that surrounds all life forms and control their characteristic activities through repetition of thought and behaviour. When we understand that our thoughts and behaviour are controlled by our beliefs. We can see how our beliefs contribute to our own Morphic Fields and the more energy we give those beliefs through repetition of living from them the more power they have over our lives.

 

You are a powerful creator

You are in fact a powerful creator who has created your world from your beliefs about yourself. But the good news is in the same way you’ve managed to create a life from your self-limiting beliefs. You can choose to shift your unconscious choices to conscious ones and create a life from positive beliefs about yourself. Close your eyes and imagine what that might look like?

Matrix Reimprinting helps you find those core self-limiting beliefs often created in childhood during an emotionally challenging or traumatic moment. As a child you are the centre of your world and need to have an explanation of why particular events happen to you. Often the reasons you create involve blaming yourself in someway. You decide you are not good enough, not lovable, not worthy, bad, wrong the list goes on. What you don’t realise as a child is from the moment the belief has been formed you begin creating your life from it.

 

Your beliefs are thought forms you send into the Matrix

The reason these beliefs are so powerful is because they are programmed into your subconscious mind and you have no conscious awareness of them in your day-to-day lives. In the quantum understanding of the universe everything is part of the divine Matrix, a field of energy transformation and manifestation that permeates and connects all life forms. Your beliefs are thought forms you send out into the matrix that you attract back as life experiences. In other words if you have a belief you are not good enough on a subconscious level you are constantly looking for validation of the truth of your belief so you can be ‘right’.

From a survival perspective this is a way of keeping you safe because you are still influenced by your ancestors fear of change as for them change was a real threat to their survival. The problem is when you act from your limiting belief it locks you into a cycle of limitation and restriction because every time you experience your belief being ‘true’ you reinforce it in your own Morphic field and the Matrix.

The only way to change those subconscious beliefs is by finding the memories where they originated. Releasing the emotional energy that is holding them in place in the Matrix and creating new positive beliefs.

 

Collapse the ‘table top’ of memories based on a self-limiting belief

It may seem a daunting prospect to go back to all those painful memories to clear them one by one. But with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting we use the table top metaphor to show that once you remove the table legs of the most emotionally intense memories. The whole table top of similar memories based on a particular belief collapses.

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Creating positive beliefs opens up new pathways in life

Once you connect with the power of the energetic universe within yourself. You are able to work with this energy in a proactive way, releasing pain and sadness and making space for new positive beliefs and the emotions they create. From this place you will find new pathways and directions begin to reveal themselves and as you open and expand your inner world you will find your outer world begins to do the same.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

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Unlocking the treasures of the heart

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How often do you take the time to sit quietly and really listen to your heart? With the busy lives many of us lead the chances are not very often. Our industrial society treats human beings as parts in a giant machine and there has been no place for the heart and it’s wisdom.

Instead we are taught that to be happy we must be successful and to be successful we need to work harder and harder to gain more material wealth.  I’m not saying all material wealth is bad. I like my material comforts as much as the next person but I have personally found the idea that a life of comfort and convenience is the road to happiness has not been true for me.

I found our busy noisy world was the road to stress and a breakdown. I know I am not alone. The reason everyone is so stressed is because they are following the conditioning of working harder and harder to achieve happiness through material gain and finding it’s not working. If it was working they would feel happy not stressed.

 

The origin of stress is fear

What many people fail to realise because they are too busy being stressed on the treadmill of industrial life is that stress originates from the emotion of fear. In evolutionary terms the industrial revolution happened in the blink of an eye and for many thousands of years before life evolved more slowly and the human body, mind and spirit had time to adapt.

The body is a highly adaptive survival organism that was designed with the three responses to a threat of death. Fight, flight and freeze. This programming is very strong because it had to be as back then it really could mean the difference between life and death.

 

Is stress really the way to happiness? 

In the concrete cities we now inhabit we no longer have the same type of threats to our survival but the body is still programmed to respond in this way to perceived threats. Instead of the fear of being eaten by a predator we have the fear of of being fired from our job. Instead of the fear of starvation we fear we don’t have the perfect body to be attractive and loved. The stress we experience is based on these fears of not working hard enough to be successful at our jobs, bodies, social lives and relationships. We put enormous pressure on ourselves because we were taught from childhood that this is how we’ll achieve happiness.  But can being in a fearful and stressed state really be the way to happiness?

 

Stress disconnects us from source

In a state of stress our heart rhythms become erratic. Our frontal cortex shuts down and we are unable to think clearly and solve problems. In this state we are also cut off from our connection to source through our heart and are unable to access it’s divine wisdom. As many people are in a state of fight or flight almost 24 7 they are not able to connect with their heart’s guidance and so their actions are controlled by fear and stress not love.

 

EFT helps us unlock the treasures of the heart 

If the stress we feel is not acknowledged and released eventually the body will try and speak to you through physical symptoms and disease. EFT can help us understand the emotions behind the stress and where they originate from. Through tapping we can begin to open our hearts once again to connect with the truth of our emotions and release them. Once you recognise that all feelings, even the painful ones have a role to play in guiding you on your soul path it becomes easier to accept them as important wisdom from your heart.

When you unlock the pain held in your heart and release it you are free to rediscover all the other treasures contained within it that are difficult to access in an emotionally blocked state. Feelings of love, joy, compassion and gratitude for life. A true heart centred connection to other people and to life itself. In opening our hearts and releasing pain we find ourselves coming home to the eternal love of our soul.

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

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Using EFT to learn the language of emotions

If someone asked you what’s the main way people communicate with each other the chances are you’d say talking. There is a lot of emphasis on learning the spoken word and of course it’s a very important aspect of human communication. However it may surprise you to know talking is only responsible for 7% of our communication, especially when you consider how much talking we all do.  In fact 55% of communication is visual (body language and eye contact) and 38% is vocal (tone of voice, pitch, speed and volume)

 

People talking

Talking is only responsible for 7% of communication

 

Communicating with our emotions

There is another language much less recognised but equally important and that is the language of emotions. As children we are much more connected to our emotional state unable to hide what we are feeling in the moment. In our society however, emotions are often seen as a weakness and as our conditioning takes over we are taught that being ‘too emotional’ is not a desirable way of behaving and so we learn to censor ourselves to fit in and be ‘normal’.

This conditioning means we can become very disconnected from our true feelings and when we face a challenge in our lives that is emotionally upsetting we are taught to suppress those feelings rather than express and release them. Although a certain amount of emotional censorship is necessary for society to function effectively. Unfortunately for many people suppressing their emotions over a period of time can lead to mental or physical illness and disease.

 

Emotions are recorded at a cellular level

Ignoring emotions does not mean they go away. Instead they go into the body ‘recorded’ at a cellular level and stay there until such time as they are released. But as we are not taught how to effectively do this the average person is carrying around layers of emotions from all of their traumatic experiences from childhood or even previous life times.

 

Our emotional environment affects our genes

The importance of the mind-body connection is being increasingly accepted and new sciences such as Epigenetics are able to show that both the emotional ‘environment’ of our inner world and our physical environment can have either a positive or negative impact on the health of our genes. For this reason it’s important to be aware of what emotional environment you are creating on a daily basis.

Is it one filled with positive thoughts that bring a feeling of joy and love into your heart or is it one filled with thoughts that have a negative impact on your health and wellbeing? Chances are it’s the latter and everyday you are creating an internal environment filled with thoughts and emotions that are keeping you from an optimum state of health and wellbeing whilst at the same time blocking your authentic self, in fact you may not even know who this self is.  This is where energy psychology therapies such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Matrix Reimprinting, a recent and very powerful evolution of EFT can be very helpful.

 

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Peeling away the layers of emotions

 

Peeling the onion

EFT and Matrix Reimprinting are powerful therapies that enable you to learn the language of your emotions.  As you tap on an issue and connect with what physical sensation it creates in your body you go on a unique journey that involves peeling away the layers of emotions that are causing this block in your meridian energy system, a network of pathways and energy points that run through your body.

We call this the onion effect and what EFT is really good at is helping you identify your emotions as part of the process of peeling away those layers that are blocking you from connecting with your original being of peace and love. Once the layers have been removed Matrix Reimprinting can be used to help you re-connect with your authentic self by healing the younger parts of you that have been holding these emotions for many years.

 

Shine the light of your authentic self

Taking the time to learn the language of emotions using EFT can literally change your life. Instead of remaining stuck in a place, job, relationship that is no longer working for you or perhaps never was. You can clear the layers of emotion and self-limiting beliefs caused by them that are keeping you stuck.

The wonderful thing is once they have been cleared you are free to shine the bright light of your authentic self into the world and begin to consciously create your life in a way that works for you.

It is only when you begin living from this state of being that you will see your outer world transform as it begins to reflect your light back to you.

© Amy Branton.

 

 

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

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In the chrysalis of change

Butterfly emerging from chrysalis

We must find our own way out of the chrysalis of change

 

Chrysalis of change

Like all life forms the caterpillar is born with an inbuilt evolutionary urge. At some point it will know it’s time to go somewhere safe and quiet to make it’s chrysalis whilst it transforms into a completely new life form.

It is not by accident it begins life crawling around. It cannot travel very far or very fast and it relies on its outer skin for defence in the form of camouflage or poisonous fur to protect it whilst it fulfils its basic needs. This is the first stage of its life, learning the basics.

We begin life in a similar way except our camouflage is the social identity we are conditioned to create so we can fit in with everyone else and survive. It has been this way for a very long time. Each generation passing down behaviour based on the survival mind and though in the past this would have often have meant to difference between life and death in recent times it has become a self-destructive behaviour on a global scale.

The fear-mind’s solution to the problem of survival has become a problem itself and has led us to a point where our environmentally destructive habits threaten the survival of all life on the planet. It is time for our evolutionary impulse to evolve from the survival mind to the conscious mind.

Rather than looking at insects and seeing something smaller and inferior to us. Could it be that we have much to learn from other life forms evolutionary journeys? After all many of them have been around much longer than humans. Perhaps the metamorphosis of the caterpillar into a butterfly represents this necessary evolution from humans mindlessly focusing on survival to heart-centred spiritual consciousness?

 

Entering the chrysalis

Like the caterpillar we have to enter our chrysalis period alone, we must also struggle to leave our chrysalis alone too. There are some things we can only do for ourselves and working out who we really are and what we’re here to do as spiritual beings is one of them. Time in your chrysalis is imperative for you to reflect on your life so far and understand the lessons learnt from it. It’s also a time to work out what you will do with the second half of your life when you transform from the caterpillar into the butterfly of spiritual consciousness.

How will you use these new abilities and skills that have evolved from your earlier life? How you will live in a heart-centred and conscious way? What will your life look like when you do?

 

Spiritual Metamorphosis

The caterpillar teaches us there are no short cuts to being a butterfly. It’s true the butterfly’s wings enable it to have a completely different perspective of the world and travel further and faster than the caterpillar ever could but it can only do this because it lived as a caterpillar first.

In the same way we need the lessons of our caterpillar stage of life to be the foundation for our own spiritual metamorphosis. This can only happen when we take the time in our chrysalis to understand and accept those life lessons. The spiritual wisdom of the butterfly can only grow from the hard work of the caterpillar.

© Amy Branton.

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice covering Brighton & Hove, Worthing, Lewes, Shoreham-By-Sea and Lancing dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives by improving their emotional, physical and spiritual health and wellbeing using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

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A free heart is a happy heart

The healing path is the way back to your heart.

In life you will find many pathways to choose from. You may try different routes and travel far but only the healing path helps you find your way back to your heart…

This healing journey can be challenging as we navigate the emotionally painful experiences we will inevitably face in our lives. It doesn’t help that in our society showing emotion is considered to be a sign of weakness so we are taught to suppress and deny emotions rather than express and release them.

But often these challenging and painful experiences lead to us closing our heart to protect us as we fear being hurt again. Whilst it’s an understandable strategy to avoid further pain, emotions are energy and for us to stay healthy they need to flow otherwise suppressed emotions will eventually manifest as physical symptoms and disease in the body. It also disconnects us from our hearts guidance and wisdom. It is our heart that is our creative centre and it needs to be open for us to tap into our connection with the creative intelligence of the cosmos.

Free your heart with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting 

This is why freeing your heart from the emotional pain of the past is so important. Emotional Freedom Technique and Matrix Reimprinting, a recent evolution of EFT are two revolutionary therapies from the emerging field of energy psychology that can help set you free from the pain of the past and open your heart to the joys of life again. They combine talking therapy with the eastern meridian energy system and are often referred to as ‘emotional acupuncture’ or ‘tapping’.

By focusing on your emotional issue whilst tapping on a sequence of meridian points on the head, upper body and hands you connect simultaneously with mental, emotional, sensory and higher dimensional information and energy within the subconscious mind to find the memories that are the root cause, clear the stuck energy that you’ve been carrying around often for many years and create new positive images in your subconscious mind. These positive images not only make us feel better emotionally but in studies undertaken by the Institute of Heart Math Research Center it has been proven that positive emotions also boost our immune system and so improve our physical health.

Co-creating with the universe

When you release the energetic blocks that have been holding you back and open your heart you are able to use this freed energy as a positive power source to begin co-creating with the universe, growing in new directions and creating what you desire in your life.

A free heart is a happy heart…

© Amy Branton

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice based in Sussex dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

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What to do when the fear-mind takes over

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We are living in times of rapid and profound change with a growing recognition that we need to move away from solely focusing on industrial growth and materialism towards building a life-sustaining society that benefits the health of the individual, the community and the ecosystems on which all life is dependant. In the natural world change is constant it’s only in the human world we try and control our lives to avoid change as we fear we won’t survive it.

But change is necessary for us to grow and change involves risk. When a seed is germinated and it becomes a seedling there is a risk that it might get eaten or not have enough food or water to survive. However the risk is necessary for it to fulfil its destiny of growing into a plant that will then propagate the species contributing to its evolutionary journey.

Some of you are choosing to proactively change your lives because of dissatisfaction with your old life and a desire to be part of this positive shift but for others perhaps change has been forced upon you.  Regardless of how change is initiated it is possible for you to see it as an opportunity to reassess your life and the path you are currently on rather than becoming overwhelmed by fear of the unknown.

Challenges of change

When you let go of the day-to-day activities that kept you busy in our old life you find a space is created that makes it easier to listen to your inner voice.  It would be great if all you had to do was listen but this is just the first stage to bringing major change to your life. The biggest challenge to taking action based on the guidance of your heart is confronting the fear-mind. You will recognise the fear-mind when you start hearing all the reasons why you can’t do what you’re heart is telling you because:

It’s too difficult

It will never work

So and so tried it and look what happened to them

What if I can’t earn enough money doing the thing I love?

I’m not good enough

I’m too old to start again

What if it doesn’t work out?

What if I don’t meet anyone else?

The list can be endless and designed to do one thing and one thing only. Protect you from taking risks and remind you of all the times it didn’t work out in the past to keep you ‘safe’ in your comfort zone. However for many of you your comfort zone is often a place you reached because of limiting beliefs about yourself and what you could achieve in life rather than a place you consciously visualised and worked towards manifesting. Do you ever wonder who you would be and where you would be without the fear-mind holding you back?

Tapping into positivity and possibility

When you find the fear-mind has taken over but you also know that change will be a good thing for you. Tapping is a great way to acknowledge your fearful thoughts and get to the root of them. Acknowledging your fears instead of denying or suppressing them is the first step to overcoming them.

When you tap on these thoughts you can access the first time you felt this feeling which will usually be an early traumatic memory where you created a self-limiting belief about yourself or you will recognise the voice of an adult authority figure speaking their conditioned fears that you absorbed as your own. Other memories where these beliefs where reinforced may also come into your awareness. People are always surprised that the thoughts and beliefs of a 4 year old in an emotionally difficult moment can still be governing them unconsciously many years later.

Once you have tapped to clear the negative energy held within these memories you are able to have new insights about the past whilst simultaneously creating new positive beliefs about yourself in your current situation. This in turn frees your energy so you can begin creating new ideas and possibilities for how you can step out of your comfort zone towards whatever your heart is calling you to with positivity and confidence.

© Amy Branton.

Amy Branton runs Free Heart EFT a heart centred therapy practice based in Sussex dedicated to helping people bring positive change to their lives using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.

http://www.freehearteft.co.uk

https://twitter.com/amyfreeheart

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